Research shows that the quality of friendships is one of the most important factors in determining our happiness, success and overall mental health.
Do your friends lift you higher? Do they make you want to be better? Learn more? Be kinder and do right by others? Do your friends see your potential and encourage you to be your best and help others?
Friends who suck the life out of us ask us for our advice but never take it. One sided friendships are those with people who expect you to be there even when they are not. Friends that lift can will say, “I’m sorry…I messed up. You were right. I was wrong.” Friends who lift want the best for you at all cost even when their honesty might result in a fight or temporary tension. Friends who lift will not tolerate behavior or thinking that is less than you deserve. Ironically, friends that lift require the least amount of maintenance. They just get you!
Invest in friendships that lift you and spend less time and energy on those that don’t.
And let’s be frank…even the best of friends can argue and disagree, but friends who lift always come from a place of your best interest. Real friends are there for each other and just like a marriage… the tough times make you better!
It’s less about breaking up with those that drain and more about consciously decided to spend less energy on them. It’s about spending energy with those people who inspire you to be better!
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Love this message! Just saw your interview with Rory Vaden on brand builders.
Love this message and it is something very real and present in my life right now! Struggling with a long time close friendship of over 10 years, lots of things have changed and happened to pull us apart but bottom line, I didn’t like who I became when I was around her and I didn’t feel valued or appreciated. Now she is trying to work her way back into my life and I am stuck. But your message has reminded me why I pulled away I. The first place and that things probably will never be different! Thank you