Today I want to talk about how to get motivated when you’re just not feeling it. Whatever it is, I’m going to give you my best tips. I promise this is going to be the kick-butt you need to get yourself back on track.
How to Get Motivated
So how do you get motivated when you’re really just not feeling it? And do people super high energy, incredibly motivated and very driven people ever have bad days? The answer is yes!
I know you’re already a really motivated and driven person. Sometimes we don’t give ourselves enough credit. But what I want to give you today are some tips to get your butt in gear on those days when you’re just not feeling it… but you need to get things done!
These tips help with: weight loss, building your business, repairing a marriage, taking care of teenagers and raising teenagers.
Set it Up
The first thing you have to understand is that in order to be successful, you’ve got to set yourself up for success. Don’t make it impossible on yourself to succeed. And I know that sounds obvious, but there are so many people who set themselves up for failure because they don’t believe that it’s even possible. They put these demands on themselves that are insurmountable.
Bret and I have had the opportunity to coach entrepreneurs. One thing that we find really common is that a lot of them put incredible deadlines and expectations on themselves, where it’s almost impossible to succeed. There are not enough hours in the day… even if you were to forego sleep, relationships and everything else.
So you have to look at first how you’re going to set yourself up for success, regardless of your objective.
Structure
One of the most important things you can do is make sure that you’re set up for success in terms of how you structure your day and organize your time.
If this is important to you, you need to clear something off your schedule that is less important to you, even if it means from time to time letting somebody down.
Now let’s talk about accountability. Accountability works. Accountability is that thing that gets teenagers to show up to a big, brick building and study each night and take test. Because they’re held accountable. If we can get teenagers accountable, then we can certainly become accountable as adults by setting up those same layers.
How do we do that? First and foremost, get yourself an accountability partner. There is no excuse why you don’t have somebody rooting for you and not letting you off the hook on the days when you just don’t feel like it. You must find an accountability partner who’s in the exact same boat as you. Whether we’re talking about getting your toddler potty trained, or reaching your fitness goals, or maybe even just starting a new business.
There is nothing better for you than to have somebody in the same boat as you who can encourage you and push you on the days that you’re not feeling. Because on the days when you’re really motivated and you’re just driving forward, that’s when they’re going to need your help.
Give people that you trust, that you love, that you support permission to keep you accountable.
Just Look a Little Ahead
You heard me say that I am a runner. I consider myself a runner because I like to run. I actually love to run as long as I’m not running fast. So this next tip that I have from you comes from my cross country coach my freshman year of high school. I played every sport. Well, I did everything for like five minutes, including cross-country. I had this coach at the beginning of practice. He would tell us how far the run was going to be that day. And we started training in the middle of the summer. This coach would say to us, “Okay. Today is going to be the long run. We’re going to run 12 miles today.” I’m like, “What? Isn’t this just like a three mile thing. Why are we running 12 miles?” And I was dropping to the back of the pack and running really slow; because I was thinking, “I’m never going to make 12 miles, I’m never going to make 12 miles.”
My coach told me, “don’t think about finishing the next mile. Just keep looking a little further ahead of you and focus on that.” And I think that’s some great advice.
The Next Five
Whether you’re trying to lose weight, start a business, repair a marriage, save money, get through college, don’t think about how big and arduous this goal is rather, think about the next five, whether that’s the next five pounds you have to lose or the next five miles or the next five days, or the next five clients. Think in terms of fives, just make it that much more doable. And then you don’t weigh yourself down with how huge and amazingly overwhelming sometimes our goals can be. If I set a goal for myself to build multimillion-dollar companies and do some of the things I’ve done, I would’ve quit. But I always remembered that great advice to focus just a little further out in front of you and just keep going.
Which leads me into my next tip… baby steps.
The people who lose motivation pretty quickly are people who sprint. Because when you sprint, you run out of energy. When you run out of energy, you run out of motivation Then you start to beat yourself up and say,” I’m tired, I can’t do it, I can’t keep pace, I can’t keep up, I’m going to quit.”
Mindest: Get Motivated
I saved the best for last and it’s mindset. It is unbelievable how much power you have over your life, your attitude, the outcome of things, just by changing your mindset. By really concentrating on whatever it is you want to happen.
Brian Tracy, says, “The law of concentration states that whatever you dwell upon grows. The more you think about something, the more it becomes part of your reality.” If you decide that you’re in a terrible marriage, guess what happens to your marriage? If you wake up and you decide you’re low on energy, you will feel tired.
Whatever you believe to be true becomes your reality. You’ve already made progress. If you look back and notice how far you’ve come and you focus on that rather than how much further you have to go, that changes your reality.
You can do anything you set your mind to. That is the truth. I believe you can, and I know you believe it too.
It has been an absolute honor to spend this time with you. It means a lot to me that you’ve read this post and that you’re sharing it with your friends. To share just click where you want to share below!
J says
This is just what I needed today! Today I was feeling successful. I’ve got a great job that I’m succeeding at, I’m ahead on my work, I have good relationships with my students and friends/family…but I also felt stuck or at a stand still. I love your podcast and blog. I would like to know more about this topic. On how to continue to feel purposeful once you have been successful. Thanks for all you do.
Maureen martini says
Want to stay motivated. Love you.
Keisha says
I BELEIVE in myself and in my DREAMS!!
Tiffany Mason says
This is a great post, Chalene. It’s so important to have an accountability partner. My partner would definitely be my husband, John. I like how you mentioned that you have to set yourself up for success. A great way to set yourself up for success is to have routine. We all love routine, especially if we know that it will help us get closer to our dreams. One routine that I love to do with my husband John is to jump out of bed in the morning at 4am, go out, walk around the neighborhood and say incantations. This is a great exercise that I learned from Tony Robbins. Start your day with fresh air, quality of time with your spouse, and positive incantations. Now, this sets you up for success!
Wishing you a happy and healthy 2015, Chalene!