We get to choose our friends. This is an area of our lives over which we have complete control. Developing positive friendships can mean the difference between an easygoing existence, or one filled with drama.
Ask yourself…
- Are your friends lifting you up?
- Are they people of integrity?
- Do they encourage or discourage?
- Do you feel like you need to impress them or can you be yourself?
Reality Check
Turn on a reality television show and within fifteen minutes, you’ll be exposed to toxic friendships. These shows highlight gossiping, backstabbing, jealousy and general negativity. Yes, the characters look attractive. But are they acting becomingly? They have truly earned the title, “frenemies,” and who needs that in their life?
Fill your time and your heart with friends who are positive and who can offer genuine kindness and support. Developing positive relationships reinforces your values and gives you the opportunity to grow. You’ll find that true friends are truly delighted to know you.
If you don’t have these kinds of friends in your life yet, keep your eyes open. Be a good friend to others and they will want to get to know you. Be open and willing to be genuine and create lasting relationships that bring you pleasure, align with your values and move you closer to your goals.
Know When to Let Go
If things feel off. If your gut tells you, “this makes me sad, mad, or frustrated,” it’s time to let go. Listen to our “7 Signs to Know it’s Time to let a Friendship Go” podcast now right here.
What does developing positive friendships mean to you? Comment below!
So true Chalene! This is why you are my “friend”!
Thank you for sharing this wonderful reminder!
Sarah
I’m hesitant to share this, but this is one pressing issue and challenging topic. I’m known for my high-energy, happy go lucky self, but it seems that I can’t be myself around this new rowd I’ve been around lately. It’s the only dance club in town, so I can’t go elsewhere. It’s a bit disheartening.