Do you believe you’ve reached your fullest potential as a human being? Are there things you would love to accomplish, but you always seem to talk yourself out of it? The beliefs we have about ourselves can stop us or propel us forward.
The only thing that’s stopping you is YOU! But here’s the good news: you have the ability to learn new things and change the way you think! You can do anything that you decide you can do. Today, we are going to identify those beliefs that create obstacles and take action against them.
Change Your Beliefs
The self-limiting beliefs that keep us from achieving our full potential are often formed as 
kids, when we don’t yet have the ability to think with logic. They’re also a result of unresolved trauma, an unprocessed past, and labels we give ourselves and others.
These beliefs come to the surface as self-doubt, fear, negative self-talk, and a lack of patience. But negative self-talk is not cute – it’s not helpful, it’s harmful. And even if you think you’re over your past, if you haven’t worked through it, you’ll still feel harm from it.
So now that we know where these beliefs come from, how do we change them? Well, my first suggestion is and always will be therapy. Number two and three are confidence and better habits…
How to Hard-Wire Confidence
What does confidence look like to you? Is it self-assuredness? Someone who’s quietly in control, unaffected, humble, certain, easy to be around? A leader? To me, these qualities embody confidence. While I don’t have to be the best-looking, richest, or smartest person in the room, I am going to do the best with what I’ve got. I believe I’m confident because I always put my best foot forward no matter who’s around.
So how do you become confident if you don’t feel it? This is where habits come into play. You form the habit of acting confident – fake it ‘til you make it! Think of people who have the confidence you would like to portray. Now, become an actor. Watch them and imitate them. Then, refine this behavior making it your own, and embody it. When you’re in a situation in which you could use a boost of confidence, think to yourself, “What would ______ do in this situation?”
The more you surround yourself with confident people and adopt the habit of acting confident, the more confident you will become. And your beliefs will change as a result!
Time to Take Action!
Understanding your beliefs is step one, but here’s the thing…Nothing I say is going to change your life. What you DO with the information I give you will change your life. So, it’s time to take action!
Get out your pen and paper, and start changing your beliefs today by taking the action steps below.
- List something you can do today that is a little outside your comfort zone and takes courage, but you know it will build your confidence.
- Write down something you will do in the next 7 days that you’ve been a little fearful of.
- List something you’ll do in the next 30 days that at this very moment gives you butterflies.
- Write down something you’ve done that is a sliver of success – just a small success you’ve had that proves your greatness and motivates you to move forward.
- Write down at least 3 things you can do today to start forming better habits. Then, identify the reward for each of these.
Your habits are the things that separate you from the people who want what you have. Habits build confidence, which in turn changes your beliefs. God doesn’t make mistakes. You have greatness within you. Decide now that you will stop the negative self-talk, adopt better habits, and take action! You are unstoppable!
this is a great quick reminder after an amazing wk – it is right after u get back in to routine – time to change up the same ole #beunstoppable
Always an inspiration. You always seem to manage to say just what I need to hear when I need to hear it!
Take ACTION is the one thing you have to do to drive your business. I say that after I take a leap and talk to someone and it reaffirms that action is the only way to have success. After hearing this at CAMP DO MORE and then rereading it, it means so much more!! THank you!!
Awesome!
Great blog! I needed to read this today! I always have great ideas in my head and then something else inside me is making me take a step back. I start thinking I can’t do and I get scared. So I am glad I came across this. Thanks Chalene!
Glad to hear that!
I believe that ‘little voice’ is your inner child. If you’re hearing negative ‘self-talk’, she needs to be healed. Professional Therapy has helped me to help her. It takes time, but it is undeniably the first & most powerful step toward a better life. #EMDR.
I am 59 & in 7 1/2 months I have lost 70 pounds with Weight Watchers and Walking. I have 40 pounds to go, and since it is so hot where I live, I started working out to your Turbo Fire! I had watched my daughter lose 90 pounds by first working out to P90X, Insanity, and then your Turbo Fire. She always said yours was her favorite and what a difference it has made to my physical fitness level and attitude! Your wonderful smile, great ability to lead and motivate at every step of the workout, has me hooked! I have discovered muscles and strength I have never felt before. It may have taken me almost a lifetime to find my joy in life and self worth, but I did finally find it. With the help of therapy, and a desire to not stay in the unhappy world I had created, I now feel I can achieve the life I always wanted, even at 59! Eating right, working out, and changing your mind set, isn’t as hard as I thought, and the benefits are so worth it! Thanks for you wonderful work Chalene.
Way to go!
I agree there is nothing better than pen and paper. I would like to discuss this further- please e-mail me at your convenience. Thanks!
Thanks Chalene! Always inspiring. Thanks for posting the action steps. I’m ready to take these steps. I too am a firm believer in therapy. It’s not a sign of weakness, but of strength. Anyone who has gone through therapy knows it takes a strong person to deal with the emotions you are confronted with.